Guys

Raymond and I had the ideal relationship: we rarely fought, we treated each other with respect, we had fun together, we loved each other, and we trusted each other completely. At one point, we had our entire wedding and our future planned. Now there are no plans, there is only an uncertain future. No relationship carries a lifetime guarantee. I made him my world and he left me all alone to pick up the pieces of my broken heart.

At first, I was not sure if I would survive. I was well beyond devastated. I did not want to go on living without him. After a lot of crying and praying, I concluded that everything happens for a reason. I have realized that pinning my hopes and dreams on another person, especially a man, keeps me dependent. According to Patricia O’Brien, “It isn’t sufficient to seek wholeness through men, it never was and it never will be for any woman, married or single.” Life is always presenting us with tragedies, and hopefully we learn from them. These challenges should not set us back, or stunt our personal growth. In fact, they should strengthen us. “We will never be given more than we can handle.” It was a long difficult journey to get where I am now, but I still have a long ways to go because I am not finished healing yet.

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