Sep

12

Letting Go

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I no longer feel any animosity toward Nick for his behavior. However, I am tinged with and resentment over the Nick and Tamara situation as a whole. I am not remorseful because I have no reason to be; I did nothing wrong. Nevertheless, I am still mourning the loss of two friendships I considered very dear once upon a time.

I have been giving the situation a lot of thought since the falling out. It is not necessary to keep reviewing how I have been hurt or to assign blame. I am ready to begin letting go of my negative feelings. However, this does not mean I am willing to let one or both of them back into my life. I can forgive them without having to continue associating with either of them.

Instead of thinking of forgiveness as an eraser to wipe another’s slate clean, I will think of it as scissors. I will use it to cut the strings of resentment than bind me to the hurt and other negative feelings this situation has caused. By releasing this resentment, I will set myself free. Wallowing in all the negativity will not alter the situation.
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