Jul
30
Obloquy of a Cutter
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Cutting is my most destructive addiction.
I started cutting myself when I was twelve - after my first suicide attempt. It wasn’t a suicidal behavior. In fact, self-injuring was my coping mechanism for life. It’s what kept me from killing myself. Granted it wasn’t a constructive or healthy method, but it worked. Until December 2005 I hadn’t cut since high school.
I’m not quite certain what caused me to start doing it again in the first place. There are several possibilities: maybe it was the need to release pent up emotions (rage, shame, guilt, hatred, anger, fear); maybe I wanted to punish myself; maybe I felt I deserved it; maybe it helped me regain control; maybe it distracted me from all the emotional pain; maybe I used my blood as a substitute for tears. It was probably a combination of all those things.
Regardless of why I did it, the need consumed me until it drowned out everything else and all I could think of was seeing my blood running down a drain, filling a pickle jar, or soaking a towel. It was so hypnotic and relaxing and beautiful.
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30
Family Reunion 7-29-07
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My uncle Don has been visiting since Friday. He drove up from San Antonio with his boyfriend, Raymond, and their dog, Heidi. He moved back down there a couple years ago. Since he’s in town my grandparents decided to have a get-together. The entire family (from my grandparents down) was there, except Jeff’s kids from his first marriage, and my brother, David. David couldn’t be there because he’s currently incarcerated. Jo-Jo and Lexi couldn’t be there because their mom hasn’t let Jeff see them since he got remarried.
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25
Living Happily in our World as an INFP
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Table of contents for INFP Personality Type
- Jungian Functional Preference Ordering for INFP
- My Jung Personality Type: INFP (Questor/Idealist/Healer)
- Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving Profile
- Idealist Temperament
- INFP - The Dreamer
- INFP Profile
- INFPs as Lovers
- INFPs as Friends
- INFPs as Parents
- INFPs and Stress
- INFP Careers
- Common Qualities of the INFP Personality Type
- Allowing Your INFP Strengths to Flourish
- Potential Problem Areas for INFPs
- Living Happily in our World as an INFP
- Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve INFP Success
Some INFPs have difficulty fitting into our society. Their problems are often a result of an unawareness of appropriate social behavior, an unawareness of how they come across to others, or unrealistic expectations of others. Any one of the above issues stem from using Extraverted iNtuition in a diminished manner.
An INFP who takes in information for the sake of understanding the world around them, rather than one who takes in information only to support their own ideas, will have a clearer, more objective understanding of how society values social behaviors and attitudes. He or she will also be more aware of how they are perceived by others, and will have more realistic expectations for others’ behavior within a relationship. Such well-adjusted INFPs will fit happily into our society.
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24
Potential Problem Areas for INFPs
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Table of contents for INFP Personality Type
- Jungian Functional Preference Ordering for INFP
- My Jung Personality Type: INFP (Questor/Idealist/Healer)
- Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving Profile
- Idealist Temperament
- INFP - The Dreamer
- INFP Profile
- INFPs as Lovers
- INFPs as Friends
- INFPs as Parents
- INFPs and Stress
- INFP Careers
- Common Qualities of the INFP Personality Type
- Allowing Your INFP Strengths to Flourish
- Potential Problem Areas for INFPs
- Living Happily in our World as an INFP
- Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve INFP Success
With any gift of strength, there is an associated weakness. Without “bad”, there would be no “good”. Without “difficult”, there would be no “easy”. We value our strengths, but we often curse and ignore our weaknesses. To grow as a person and get what we want out of life, we must not only capitalize upon our strengths, but also face our weaknesses and deal with them. That means taking a hard look at our personality type’s potential problem areas.
INFPs are rare, intelligent, creative beings with many special gifts. I would like for the INFP to keep in mind some of the many positive things associated with being an INFP as they read some of this more negative material. Also remember that the weaknesses associated with being an INFP are natural to your type. Although it may be depressing to read about your type’s weaknesses, please remember that we offer this information to enact positive change. We want people to grow into their own potential, and to live happy and successful lives.
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23
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22
INFP Careers
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Table of contents for INFP Personality Type
- Jungian Functional Preference Ordering for INFP
- My Jung Personality Type: INFP (Questor/Idealist/Healer)
- Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving Profile
- Idealist Temperament
- INFP - The Dreamer
- INFP Profile
- INFPs as Lovers
- INFPs as Friends
- INFPs as Parents
- INFPs and Stress
- INFP Careers
- Common Qualities of the INFP Personality Type
- Allowing Your INFP Strengths to Flourish
- Potential Problem Areas for INFPs
- Living Happily in our World as an INFP
- Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve INFP Success
Whether you’re a young adult trying to find your place in the world, or a not-so-young adult trying to find out if you’re moving along the right path, it’s important to understand yourself and the personality traits which will impact your likeliness to succeed or fail at various careers. It’s equally important to understand what is really important to you. When armed with an understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, and an awareness of what you truly value, you are in an excellent position to pick a career which you will find rewarding.
The INFP is a special, sensitive individual who needs a career which is more than a job. The INFP needs to feel that everything they do in their lives is in accordance with their strongly-felt value systems, and is moving them and/or others in a positive, growth-oriented direction. They are driven to do something meaningful and purposeful with their lives. The INFP will be happiest in careers which allow them to live their daily lives in accordance with their values, and which work towards the greater good of humanity. It’s worth mentioning that nearly all of the truly great writers in the world have been INFPs.
The following list of professions is built on our impressions of careers which would be especially suitable for an INFP. It is meant to be a starting place, rather than an exhaustive list. There are no guarantees that any or all of the careers listed here would be appropriate for you, or that your best career match is among those listed.
Possible Career Paths for the INFP:
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21
INFPs and Stress
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Table of contents for INFP Personality Type
- Jungian Functional Preference Ordering for INFP
- My Jung Personality Type: INFP (Questor/Idealist/Healer)
- Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving Profile
- Idealist Temperament
- INFP - The Dreamer
- INFP Profile
- INFPs as Lovers
- INFPs as Friends
- INFPs as Parents
- INFPs and Stress
- INFP Careers
- Common Qualities of the INFP Personality Type
- Allowing Your INFP Strengths to Flourish
- Potential Problem Areas for INFPs
- Living Happily in our World as an INFP
- Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve INFP Success
INFPs feel internal turmoil when they find themselves in situations in which there is conflict between their inner code of ethics and their relationships with others. They feel caught between pleasing others and maintaining their own integrity. Their natural tendency to identify with others, compounded with their self-sacrificial dispositions, tends to leave them confused as to who they really are. Their quiet personalities further feeds their feelings of depersonalization. The INFP’s quest for self-identity then seems even more alluring but increasingly impossible to attain.
As with all NFs, the INFP will feel lost and perplexed at stressful times. As stress builds, INFPs become disconnected from their own personality and perceived place in life. They will lose sight of who they are in relation to time and place. They may not make basic observations, while instead they will focus on the more abstract and symbolic meanings of a particular interaction. This can sometimes baffle those who expect more direct communication and a fairly concrete relationship.
Jul
21
INFPs as Parents
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Table of contents for INFP Personality Type
- Jungian Functional Preference Ordering for INFP
- My Jung Personality Type: INFP (Questor/Idealist/Healer)
- Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving Profile
- Idealist Temperament
- INFP - The Dreamer
- INFP Profile
- INFPs as Lovers
- INFPs as Friends
- INFPs as Parents
- INFPs and Stress
- INFP Careers
- Common Qualities of the INFP Personality Type
- Allowing Your INFP Strengths to Flourish
- Potential Problem Areas for INFPs
- Living Happily in our World as an INFP
- Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve INFP Success
“You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth…
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.” — Kahlil Gibran
INFPs are “natural” parents. They accept and enjoy the parental role, seeing it as the natural extension of their value systems. They make use of the parental role for developing and defining their values further, and consider it their task to pass their values on to their children. They take their role quite seriously. Warm, affirming, and flexible, the INFP generally makes a gentle and easy-going parent in many respects.
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20
INFPs as Friends
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Table of contents for INFP Personality Type
- Jungian Functional Preference Ordering for INFP
- My Jung Personality Type: INFP (Questor/Idealist/Healer)
- Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving Profile
- Idealist Temperament
- INFP - The Dreamer
- INFP Profile
- INFPs as Lovers
- INFPs as Friends
- INFPs as Parents
- INFPs and Stress
- INFP Careers
- Common Qualities of the INFP Personality Type
- Allowing Your INFP Strengths to Flourish
- Potential Problem Areas for INFPs
- Living Happily in our World as an INFP
- Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve INFP Success
INFPs are warm and caring individuals who highly value authenticity and depth in their personal relationships. They are usually quite perceptive about other people’s feelings and motives, and are consequently able to get along with all sorts of different people. However, the INFP will keep their true selves reserved from others except for a select few, with whom they will form close and lasting friendships. With their high ideals, they are likely to be drawn to other iNtuitive Feelers for their closer friendships.
With their strong need for harmony and dislike of conflict, INFPs may feel threatened by people with strong Judging and Thinking preferences. Although they’re likely to be able to work well professionally with such individuals, they may have difficulty accepting or appreciating them on a personal level. They generally feel a kinship and affinity with other Feeling types.
INFPs will be valued by their confidantes as genuine, altruistic, deep, caring, original individuals.
Jul
20
INFPs as Lovers
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Table of contents for INFP Personality Type
- Jungian Functional Preference Ordering for INFP
- My Jung Personality Type: INFP (Questor/Idealist/Healer)
- Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving Profile
- Idealist Temperament
- INFP - The Dreamer
- INFP Profile
- INFPs as Lovers
- INFPs as Friends
- INFPs as Parents
- INFPs and Stress
- INFP Careers
- Common Qualities of the INFP Personality Type
- Allowing Your INFP Strengths to Flourish
- Potential Problem Areas for INFPs
- Living Happily in our World as an INFP
- Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve INFP Success
“To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before.” — Rollo May
INFPs feels tremendous loyalty and commitment to their relationships. With the Feeling preference dominating their personality, harmony and warm feelings are central to the INFP’s being. They feel a need to be in a committed, loving relationship. If they are not involved in such a relationship, the INFP will be either actively searching for one, or creating one in their own minds.
INFPs tendency to be idealistic and romantically-minded may cause them to fantasize frequently about a “more perfect” relationship or situation. They may also romanticize their mates into having qualities which they do not actually possess. Most INFPs have a problem with reconciling their highly idealistic and romantic views of life with the reality of their own lives, and so they are constantly somewhat unsettled with themselves and with their close personal relationships. However, the INFP’s deeply-felt, sincere love for their mates and their intense dislike of conflict keeps the INFP loyal to their relationships, in spite of their troubles achieving peace of mind.
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